Formalizing Decisions

This decision dictates how you will proceed, how long this will take you, how much money you will spend, and how complex your decisions will be. To determine what end result you need for you and your situation, find yourself in the following chart:

+ Informal Agreements

There is no law that says you must have a Separation Agreement. It is possible for the two of you to agree to a course of action, write it down, or simply shake hands on the deal.
However, you must recognize that an informal agreement of this sort is not legally binding or enforceable. If one of you doesn’t do what they said they would,you have no legal recourse.
An informal agreement may not be enough if you are moving assets between you, possibly transferring RRSPs, sharing a pension, even changing the names on your mortgage. You may require a Separation Agreement.
But if you share a high level of trust, have few assets and debts to share, you have the option of an informal agreement.

+ Separation Agreements

Your Separation Agreement can either be a Trial or Interim Separation Agreement, or a Final Separation Agreement.
What makes this agreement legally binding is that it has been reviewed with you by your own independent lawyer. The lawyer’s job is to make sure that you are completely aware of what you are agreeing to and the potential implications of your agreement. The lawyer wants to ensure that your agreement, particularly on the property side, cannot be disputed at a later date on the basis that one of you “didn’t know what they were doing or agreeing to”.
A Separation Agreement can be enforced in court if one of you does not live up to its terms. A Separation Agreement allows you to move forward with your life, knowing what rights and obligations you have to your spouse and your children
The only thing you can’t do as an individual with a Separation Agreement, is get remarried!

+ Divorce

If you have used a collaborative, constructive process to negotiate your separation, then getting a divorce becomes a relatively straightforward paper process.
The courts want to know the specifics of your situation – like when you were married, when you separated, and where you live – and they want to know that you have made suitable arrangements for your children.
Your lawyer can prepare all the paperwork and move it through the court system for you. You can even do this all yourself – just be sure you have lots of time and patience!
Apart from delivering papers to the court house, no one “goes to court”, no one appears in front of a judge, and no one has to argue about anything! It is a process that takes anywhere from 3-5 months to complete depending on your particular situation and just how busy the court is!

+ Divorce Judgement

A Divorce Judgement is a court order which ends your marriage, outlines the ongoing responsibilities you have to your children or each other, severs all the marital rights that you each have and enables
you to get remarried.